How to Appear Confident Even When you Don’t Feel Like It
Most people experience times in their lives when their confidence levels are tested. This is normal, as confidence can fluctuate depending on the situation. It is completely normal to feel confident in certain situations and not in others. Therefore, the first thing to acknowledge is that you are no different than anyone else. However, here are some tips on how to appear confident even when you don’t feel like it.
Look for people who are responding positively to you
For all of us, there are certain situations that can cause anxiety, fear, and lack of confidence. Usually these involve doing something that is a new experience for you. Looking for positive feedback is a way to calm your nerves in a difficult situation.
For instance, if you are training employees of an organization, focus on the people in the room who are listening to you and agreeing with what you are saying. For example, look for those who are nodding their heads and appear engrossed in what you are speaking about. Do not focus on those people who are giggling in the corner or not paying attention. Remind yourself that they are not acting professionally, and you are there for those who want to learn from you instead.
Remember previous times that you have conquered lack of confidence
When you are entering a new situation where your confidence is low and you feel nervous, stop for a minute to think of past situations where you came out on top. For example, perhaps you are not feeling confident about meeting new people at a Christmas party that you will be attending with your spouse. However, think back to the current friends you do have. How did you meet them? More times than not, meeting your friends has involved going out of your comfort zone.
It can help to see the room of people that you will be meeting as potential friends. After all, consider the saying: “A stranger is just a friend you haven’t met yet.” Repeat this in your head as you interact with others at the party.
Don’t worry about what others think about you
Accept this truth. Not everyone is going to like you. You are not going to like everyone you meet either. That is just human nature. If you’re always trying to impress others, or you worry what they think about you, you will never be happy. It will also show through as a lack of confidence in your own abilities and decisions.
Instead, you need to know who you are, what you represent, and what your values are. This is the way that you will show your true, authentic self, and build trust from those around you.