It is normal to have varying levels of confidence in different situations. There are also times when your confidence will waver and suffer as you go through life. This is especially true if you live life to the fullest, and put yourself out there.
In fact, if you take chances and try new things, then you can expect that things will not always go your way. The only way to avoid failure is to stay in your house, and not try anything new, but what kind of life is that?
Situations such as job layoffs, a relationship breakup, or a failing grade on a paper in school can drastically make you question your abilities, and negatively impact your confidence.
Fortunately, you do not have to let the negative things in life hold you back. Here are ways to bounce back when your confidence takes a hit.
Acknowledge your feelings
This may sound rather simplistic, but it is true. You need time to process your feelings and what has happened, but you do not want to dwell on them for a long time. Otherwise, you will end up wallowing in self-pity. Ways to process your feelings can include time spent talking and visiting with trusted friends and family, or writing down your thoughts and feelings in a notebook.
Get back into the game quickly
After you acknowledge your feelings, the key is that you not get caught up in those feelings for an extended period of time or they will wear you down, and keep you from growing in confidence.
Many people often think you either have confidence or you don’t, but the truth is that you can always continue to grow in your confidence in various areas of your life.
So if you have encountered a big setback, it is vital that you step into the ring again. It is the only way that you can improve your confidence, because the only way to win at life is to fail sometimes too. Wayne Gretzky, NHL hockey superstar, has a saying, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” This is a great reminder that the only way to get better at something is to go out and do it. Realize that failing is part of winning, and that the two go hand in hand.
Break big tasks down into smaller ones
When you have experienced a setback, everything can seem so overwhelming. Remember the saying, “How do you eat an elephant?” The answer is, “One bite at a time.” Therefore, the aim to improving your confidence is to work on it daily by mastering smaller skills that then lead to bigger gains.
So think about something that you do well, and go out and do it. Before you know it, small successes lead to bigger successes, and your confidence will also improve.